I grew up in a home with a rich farming history. The men in my family love to talk about the weather and will take you for a drive any time of the day or night to check on the ranches. They are no strangers to hard work or hard times. Their wives are strong, steady women, excellent cooks, and always ready for an unexpected adventure. I knew I was buying into this kind of life when I married Ryan and I have no regrets. It can be a hard life, but it is a rewarding life.
If marrying a farmer is anywhere in your future, here are 5 things I think you should know:
- Few things mean more to a farmer than having a wife that enjoys spending time on the farm. Bring him lunch and then just sit and chat for a while. Keep up to date with what he has been doing and what is going on. Have a free afternoon? Go keep him company on the tractor.
- A hard working man loves a good home-cooked meal. I haven't met a farmer yet who wouldn't agree with this. Don't let him come home starving after a long day of work only to find that dinner hasn't even been started. Try your best to make sure that dinner is hot and on the table when he is ready for it. This also applies to breakfast. A great way to help him start his day off right is to give him a hearty breakfast and a kiss before he leaves.
- Early mornings will be an unavoidable part of your life. Spring through Fall you will be getting up at the crack of dawn (or before) every morning. Sundays will be the only exception as long as it isn't harvest time. On some days, that will be the only time you have together so it is important to wake up with him and make your morning enjoyable. Fix him breakfast, read a devotion, talk about your plans for the day or the weather. Put a smile on and don't just stand there half-asleep (as tempting as that may be).
- Plans will change. Something will start leaking on the tractor and that dinner party you've been looking forward to for a month will have to be cancelled. The date you planned for Saturday will have to be postponed because it's supposed to rain and harvest isn't done yet. You'll find out at the last minute that he needs to work late and dinner will be on the tractor tonight. When this happens, just go with it. Show your husband that you support him by being flexible (and happy about it).
- Marrying a farmer is one of the best choices you can make. No, the farming life is not easy. It is not for the faint of heart and there will be plenty of hard days. But, there will be plenty of good days too. And let me tell you, friend, you will be hard-pressed to find a better man than a farmer.